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Help For A Challenging 2020

Help - For A Challenging 2020 Thus Far

For many people, I know, 2020 is already presenting challenges.

Some friends of mine have shared that they feel fatigued by world events thus far. Things like the interference in Ukraine, the impeachment trial, concerns for the mobs of protesters in Hong Kong, trade tensions with China. 

The escalating tensions with Iran and the Middle East following the assassination of Major General Qassem Soleimani are not helping matters any.

Perhaps the most critical questions we could ask ourselves would be, "How will I act in response to these events?" and "What values and capacities will I draw upon?" 

Many politicians and others are saying that this is the time to "fight," to stand up for what we believe in by fighting back in a caustic, intolerant, and aggressive manner. 
I feel this is precisely the wrong thing to do. 

As a conscious leader, I suggest rephrasing this anger by being the best human being example you can be. Do your best to be the change you wish to see in the world. 

Some may feel that the peaceful solution is soft and weak, but I believe this is the furthest thing from the truth. 

Mahatma Gandhi said, "Peace is the most powerful weapon of mankind," and he demonstrated this with his life lived. His way of being helped India become an independent nation during the process.
So, perhaps, rather than showing up in fight-mode, we could wisely instead, practice taking deep breaths. Then connect with the enduring wisdom of our heart. Reopen your compassion, which can ignite your connective and creative expressions of your human-ness. 

This practice can calm your nervous system, and then help you more fully grasp the possibilities of what you are inspired to do to be of assistance to our world.

You might find this could be as simple as continuing to live your life as is - being the best human being you can be. Or you may be activated to create processes to help the lives of others.
Meditation is one of the most effective ways of tuning-in to the wisdom of the universe and transmuting the way we see, interpret, and react to the world around us. 

Don't let yourself get caught up in the destructive and adverse elements in the world, which can lead to a downward spiral. Instead, participate as a positive expression, uplifting your heart as you move
in your daily life. As I like to say, "Turn that frown upsidedown." 

Blessings to you and yours in 2020!

Lisa

 www.MeditationFromTheHeart.com

Six Healing Sounds

Six Healing Sounds

During my last Monday Meditation Class I had a student who inspired my heart to revisit a Taoist practice I have learned along the path of my meditation life. This practice is called the Six Healing Sounds. Part of the Sum Faht practice stems from Taoism. Though this teaching is not specifically from my teacher is is in alignment with the flow of energy within the body.

My research led me to working with this version created by Mantak Chia via Universal Tao Publications. I was tempted to break the information up between two blog segments, but have decided against it knowing that people who really want this information will want it all at once.

The Theory behind the Six Healing Sounds: Healthy Body 


Having assessed the knowledge of the universe through internal practices, the Taoist masters discovered that each healthy organ is associated with a particular sound, color and quality of energy. Emotional problems, pollution, poor food, injuries, and overly strenuous exercise can overheat the internal organs causing them to weaken.
This changes the state of each organ’s sound frequency, color and energetic quality. The Six Healing Sounds practice helps to restore, balance and cleanse the vital organs by correcting these factors. They also stimulate the chi flow throughout the body to enhance one’s overall health and vitality.

The Cosmic Six Healing Sounds helps to release any excess heat that may be trapped in the cooling sacs which surround each organ. As you assume the postures and produce the sounds sub-vocally, their vibrations redistribute any excess heat into cooler regions of the body where it can safely be stored or used. Once organ energies are balanced, you have a good foundation for establishing and nurturing the virtue energies. This will help to maintain the Chi balance throughout the system.

What causes an organ to malfunction? There are many causes. Urban society creates a life full of physical and emotional stresses such as overcrowding, pollution, radiation, junk food, chemical additives, anxiety, loneliness, bad posture, addictions and sudden or over vigorous exercise. Separately and together these stresses produce tension and start to block the free passage of energy flow in the body. In addition, the cities that we live in often lack the safety valves provided by nature: trees, open spaces, and running water, which give forth a cooling, purifying energy. Continued overheating causes an organ to contract and harden. This impairs its ability to function and results in illness. One of the surgeons working with the Universal Tao Center in New York reports that the hearts of patients who have died of heart attacks look as if they’ve been cooked! And the ancient Taoists have a saying, “Stress cooks your brain”.

Chinese medicine teaches that each organ is surrounded by a sac or membrane, called fascia, which regulates its temperature. Ideally, the membrane releases excess heat out through the skin, where it is exchanged for cool life force energy from nature. An overload of physical or emotional tension causes the fascia to stick to the organ so that it cannot properly release heat nor absorb cool energy from the skin.

The skin becomes clogged with toxins and the organ overheats. The Six Healing Sounds speed up the heat exchange through the digestive system and the mouth. The digestive system is more than 20 feet long and runs from the mouth to the anus as one pipe in the middle of the body. It helps release excess heat from the fascia, cooling and cleansing the organs and skin. When all these sounds and postures are done in the proper order, body heat is evenly distributed by the intestinal tract throughout the whole body, and each of the organs is at the correct operating temperature.


Daily practice of the Six Healing Sounds will restore and maintain calmness and good health. Greater sexual pleasure and improved digestion will occur. Minor ailments such as colds, flu and sore throats can be prevented or thrown off easily. NOTE: Typical side effects of these practices are yawning, burping or passing wind. All of which are beneficial indicators of moving energy. Once learned, the entire set takes only 10 -15 minutes - you are worth it.

 
Lungs
 First Healing Sound: Lung Sound 

 1. Sit with your back straight, your hands resting on your lungs, and your  eyes closed. 
 Smile down to your lungs. Be aware of the quality of the energy in your  lungs.
 Picture a white light, fresh and pure like the energy of the mountains. Imagine a metal sound like a bell.
2. Take a deep breath. Close the jaws so that the teeth gently meet and part the lips slightly as you slowly exhale through your teeth making the sound “Ssssssss”. At first you can produce the lung sound out loud, but eventually you should practice it subvocally. (Subvocally means that you are vocalizing so softly that only you can hear the sound and feel the vibration inside the lungs.) (Keep the subvocal instruction in mind for the following five more sounds.)
Feel that the sound starts to move the chi in the lungs. Know that any excess heat and toxins are expelled from the lungs as the sacs (layers of tissue called fascia that surround every organ) surrounding the lungs are compressed.
3. Nurture good emotions. This is the most important part of this practice. Take as much time as you need to get in touch with the organs. As the excess heat lessens and the white - metal energy expands in the lungs then positive emotional qualities will have room to grow. Concentrate on the feelings of righteousness and courage as you transform any sadness or grief. Sit up straight and tall so you can feel courage. Try to maintain the feeling of the Lung Sound for increasingly longer periods after each practice and throughout your daily life.
4. Repeat the Lung Sound three to six times. For sadness, depression, colds, flu, toothaches, asthma, emphysema or depression you may repeat this exercise 6, 9, 12 or 24 times.

Second  Healing Sound: Kidney Sound 
Kidneys

1. Sit with your back straight, your hands resting on your kidneys, and your eyes closed.
Smile down to your kidneys. Be aware of the quality of the energy in your kidneys.
Picture a blue light, like the sun shining on the deep blue sea.
2. Take a deep breath. Open the eyes and put your legs together, ankles and knees touching. Lean forward and clasp the fingers of both hands together around your knees. Pull your arms straight from the lower back while bending the torso forward (this allows your back to protrude in the area of the kidneys). Tilt your head up as you look straight ahead. Round the lips and slightly exhale with the sound “Chooooooo” as if you are blowing out a candle. Contract your abdomen on the exhale, pulling it toward your kidneys.
Feel the sound start to move the chi in the kidneys. Know that any excess heat and toxins are expelled from the kidneys as the sacs surrounding the kidneys are compressed.
3. Nurture good emotions. Sitting upright with palms over the kidneys radiate blue light, gentleness, stillness and alertness into the kidneys. Rest, close your eyes, listen to your kidneys. Smile to them and imagine that you are still making the Kidney Sound. Breathe normally and feel your fears dissipate as you transform them. Feel the gentleness also relaxing your lower back. Try to maintain the feeling of the Kidney Sound for increasingly longer periods after each practice and in your daily life.
4. Repeat the Kidney Sound three to six times. You may repeat this exercise 6, 9, 12, or 24 times to help alleviate fear, fatigue, dizziness, ringing in the ears or back pain.

Liver
Third Healing Sound: Liver Sound

1. Sit comfortably with your back straight, your hands resting on your liver, and your eyes closed.
Smile down to your liver. Be aware of the quality of the energy in your liver.
Picture a forest. Imagine the sun shining on the forest creating life force and green light.
2. Take a deep breath. Open the eyes and extend your arms out to the side, palms up. Continue raising the arms overhead, intertwine the fingers and rotate for palms up. Bend slightly to the left, exerting a gentle pull on the liver. Open your eyes wider because they are the openings of the liver. Slowly exhale with the sound “Shhhhhhh”.
Feel that the sound starts to move the chi in the liver. Know that any excess heat and toxins are expelled from the liver as the sacs surrounding the liver are compressed.
3. Nurture good emotions. Sit upright with palms over the liver and think to radiate green light, the forest energy and kindness into the liver. Rest, close your eyes, be aware of your liver. Smile at your organ and imagine that you are still making the Liver Sound. Breathe normally and ‘see’ your liver glowing with green rejuvenating light. Concentrate on the virtue of kindness and forgiveness. This will lessen anger, aggression and frustration energy. Try to maintain the feeling of the Liver Sound for increasingly longer periods after each practice and in your daily life.
4. Repeat the Liver Sound three to six times. You may repeat this exercise 6, 9, 12, or 24 times to help expel anger, clear red or watery eyes, remove a sour or bitter taste and to detoxify the liver.

Fourth Healing Sound: Heart Sound 
Heart

1. Sit comfortably with your back straight, your hands resting on your heart, and your eyes closed. Smile down to your heart. Be aware of the quality of the energy in your heart.
Picture a red ball as a sun setting.
2. Take a deep breath. Open the eyes and take the same position as for the liver sound. This time, however, you will lean slightly to the right to pull gently against the heart. With the tongue lightly touching the lower teeth open a rounded mouth and slowly exhale with the sound “Hawwwwww”. Feel the sound start to move the chi in the heart. Know that any excess heat and toxins are expelled from the heart as the sacs surrounding the heart are compressed.
3. Nurture good emotions. Sit upright with palms over the heart and think to radiate red light, love and inner joy into the heart. Rest, close your eyes, be aware of your heart. Smile at your organ and imagine that you are still making the Heart Sound. Breathe normally and ‘see’ your heart glowing with red fiery light. Concentrate on the virtue of compassion. Strengthening the heart for more love, inner joy, honor, respect and sincerity. This will lessen hastiness, arrogance and hatred in the heart; cooling any jealousy. Try to maintain the feeling of the Heart Sound for increasingly longer periods after each practice and into your daily life.
4. Repeat the Heart Sound three to six times. You may repeat this exercise 6, 9, 12, or 24 times to help relieve sore throats, cold sores, swollen gums or tongue, jumpiness, moodiness and heart disease.

Spleen
 Fifth Healing Sound: Spleen Sound

1. Sit comfortably with your back straight, your hands resting on your spleen, and your eyes closed. Smile down to your stomach and spleen. Be aware of the quality of the energy in your stomach and spleen. Picture the yellow of a beautiful field of sunflowers.
2. Take a deep breath. Open the eyes, move the arms to the front and place the first three fingers of both hands just beneath the sternum on the left side of the rib cage. Gently push your spleen to the back as you exhale a “Whooooooo” sound. This is more guttural or ‘throaty’ than the kidney sound. Know that any excess heat and toxins are expelled from the organs as the sacs surrounding them are compressed.
3. Nurture good emotions. Sitting upright with palms over the spleen and think to radiate yellow light, fairness, openness and stability into the spleen. Rest, close your eyes, be aware of your stomach and spleen. Smile to them and imagine that you are still making the Spleen Sound. Feel  the vibration of the sound moving and cleaning the energy in the stomach and the spleen. Breathe normally and ‘see’ your organs glowing with warm yellow light. Worries are lessened. Feel the fairness, openness, balance and harmony growing in the stomach and spleen; transforming any worry in them. Try to maintain the feeling of the Spleen Sound for increasingly longer periods after each practice and in your daily life.
4. Repeat the Spleen Sound three to six times. You may repeat this exercise 6, 9, 12, or 24 times to help eliminate indigestion, nausea and diarrhea.

Sixth Healing Sound: Triple Warmer Sound 
Triple Warmer

The Triple Warmer refers to the three energy centers of the body: The upper section (brain, heart and lungs) is hot; the mid section (liver, kidneys, stomach, pancreas and spleen) is warm; and the lower section (large/small intestines, bladder and sexual organs) is cool.
The sound “Heeeeeee” serves to balance the temperature of the three levels - bringing hot energy down to the lower center and cool energy up to the higher center.
1. Either lie on your back or sit in a chair. Smile. Inhale. Bring palms over face and exhale with a “Heeeeeee” sound.
2. Inhale fully into all three energy centers: Chest, Solar Plexus and Lower Abdomen. Exhale fully with the “Heeeeeee” sound. Imagine a roller pressing out your breath in all three areas. You can use your hands to help move your chi from above your head to your lower Tan Tien.
3. Rest. Focus on the entire digestive tract.
4. Repeat the Triple Warmer Sound three to six times. You may repeat this exercise 6, 9, 12, or 24 times to help relieve insomnia and stress. Note: The Triple Warmer can be done lying down in bed to facilitate falling asleep.

Reflections of a Meditation Retreat

A couple weeks ago I had the good fortune to attend a week-long meditation retreat at Buckhorn Springs (Ashland, OR) with my meditation teacher of 27 years.

Out of the 26 folks who attended 9 states and two countries were represented.

A retreat is a perfect way to remove ourselves from our daily grind and connect more deeply with our spiritual nature. The end results are being well rested, revitalized and chock full of new insights and vigor. Often the wholeness human beings are searching for can be fulfilled from within. Especially if one takes time to retreat from daily routines and stresses.

Getting ready for another round of meditation
Sometimes I like to look at the statistics of a thing. We started with an evening meditation on a Friday and ended with a morning meditation the following Friday. In between we enjoyed 47 hours of meditation, learning, laughter and exercise. As well as 25 yummy meals that were lovingly prepared for us.  We also had an after party which included a silent auction where we raised $1600 for our scholarship program. During our free time there was several acres of beautiful land to explore, more meditation to be had, helping others with healing, sharing life experiences and the exploring of the beautiful town of Ashland.

I am always stuck by how magnificent the night sky is when we are removed from the city lights. The milky way is rich with stars. I am so lucky to experience such breath-taking beauty. It was quite fun to name all the constellations we remembered from our schooling.

A typical day would start with an hour of meditation from 7-8am. We rise from our sleepy state and walk in silence to the meditation hall and quietly sit and meditate. Breakfast is served. As you can imagine, sitting for long periods can be tiring. So to help us with that we had a daily exercise period from 9-10am. During which we'd stretch, do chi kung, tai chi and other breathing/moving exercises. From 10-Noon we'd have a session with the Teacher. Lunch is served. Free time til the 2:00-3:30 session with Leong - often outside - learning more about nature. Free time til dinner was served. 7-9pm evening session with the Teacher. Sleep and repeat.

I have to say that this retreat was golden with laughter. And there was so much harmony and great connections between all the participants. Lovely!

The main thing that is up for me at this time is Patience. Patience with family and with my meditation business.

Patience is one of the seven challenges to being a good human being. Spiritual growth is a natural process and it cannot be rushed.

Time is our gift. We have time.







Headache Relief

Meditation from the Heart's Quick Tip for Relief from a Headache

Does your head ever feel like this?

Many years ago I learned this easy and effective way to help others to get rid of their headache. It is a technique from Polarity Therapy. A person does not need years of meditation cultivation; it simply works every time. Even a child can do it.

Human beings are chock full of positive and negative electrons. At times they seem to gather in an over abundance in one's head - causing a headache.

For ease of description, Person A - is the one with the headache. Person B - is the one who is helping to lessen the headache via this polarity technique. 


Polarize a Headache

Have person A sit comfortably in a chair. Remove any hat or glasses.
Person B (standing) rubs their palms together briskly for a few seconds. Approach the left side of person A. Ask them to close their eyes and breathe deeply. Their breaths should be audible.
Person B places their right palm lightly against the base of 'A's' neck and the left palm about an inch away from 'A's' forehead.
Hold this position for a minute or two while person A is taking deep breaths. 

When done person B should flick their fingers a few times and or run their hands under cool water.

This simple technique helps to re-align the positive and negative electrons and moves the painful stagnant energy out of the head.

Gratitude Offers Abundant Living


I love this acronym: G.O.A.L. 
   Gratitude 
Offers 
     Abundant 
Living


When times are tough it is good to get back to the basics by reminding yourself of the many things you have in your life for which to be grateful.

Do not take life for granted. If you look at your life you will see that you really do have all that you need. Appreciate the little things in life. And know it is the little things that you do for others that people appreciate most.

"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough. It turns denia into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates vision for tomorrow." - Melody Beattie

Blessings: If they are not appreciated then they are not blessings. You are a blessing.

Do not take life for granted. Focus on the joy of life right here, now! For example; “Mmm this is a great cup of tea/coffee. J

Don't Worry Be Happy!

Happiness is a state of being.
Being happy does not mean you need to deny everything else. 
Do things that make you happy and agree with yourself.
Don’t Worry, Be Happy!


If you think about it you will know that there is nothing outside of ourselves that has the power to make us happy.

For example: If I think, “That cup of coffee over there will make me happy.” And I go over and get it, I may find that I am feeling happy for a while, but then I get bored with it (and the cup is soon empty). 
Now, I think, “Getting a new pair of shoes (like so and so is wearing) would make me happy.” Poof! I have new shoes. After a while I find the ‘external happiness’ fades. I get bored again.

This is temporary happiness only. Permanent happiness comes from within and goes with me where ever I go. So, if you catch yourself saying, “I will really be happy when…” Perhaps stop yourself and say, “I am truly happy now.”

Last Two of the Six Common Meditation Mistakes

Previously, we have looked at four of  the six most common meditation mistakes. (#1: I'm trying to quiet my mind. #2: I'm just trying to feel peaceful and open during my meditations. #3: "I've been doing the same practice for months or years." #4: "I'm trying to reach enlightenment or a permanent state of bliss.")

 If you have tried meditation and have become frustrated either with maintaining your practice or with a lack of results, do not feel alone. At times, even the most ardent practitioner can be derailed by these snafus.  

Many faults are rooted in typical, fundamental, misunderstandings about what the purpose of meditation is. These can derail any human being despite the best of intentions. The good news is, the meditations taught by Meditation from the Heart and the way they are presented, side-step the common errors entirely, giving you a far more reliable and enduring experience.

As we reveal more common meditation mistakes see if you recognize your own meditation ‘block(s)’.

Meditation Mistake #5: "I use my meditation as an escape from the challenges of life." Some
I'm sure it will be better over there
people may use meditation as a refuge or 'spiritual bypass'. Escaping into meditation to avoid facing or dealing with uncomfortable feelings or issues. This approach does not lead to good results. Rather such avoidance could lead to less, not more, ease and ability to deal with life issues.


Meditation is more about being fully present with everything that is - including discomfort and challenges. If there were no tough challenges in life then our life would become boring. And we would naturally create a situation that provides difficulties for our-self just to shake things up a bit.

Your meditation practice can empower and strengthen you to face truth and reality without hiding. Most of us are human beings who live and work in the world and have not chosen the monastic lifestyle. Please don't use that as an excuse to wait to have a meditation practice until 'the time is right.'

Also, ask yourself, "When or where are you happy?" Is it on vacation? Do you lose that happiness when you come back home and to work? Then treat your work as though you are on vacation. Be happy at work.

Meditation Mistake #6: "I hop from one spiritual teacher to the next trying to find the one who will make me feel the best and fulfill my desires." "Danger Will Robinson!" No one can make you feel anything or fulfill your desires. Only you can do these things for yourself. It is easy to show powerful and wonderful mystical experiences. It is much harder to work at a gentle pace to build a strong foundation which builds a harmonious and contented life. 
Don't be a cyber-bot


Please, do not give your power away to anyone. You and the innate spirit that resides within are perfectly capable of leading you to live a fulfilled life. Let your teachers gently remind and nudge you in the direction that is right for you.

More than anything, realize that we live in an age of fast information, where we can look up something that is puzzling us, read about it and decide if it is helpful or not. The key here is one, not to forget to take the time away from technology to just be with yourself. And two, to remember to move at the pace of a human being - not a cyber-bot.

Two of the Six Common Meditation Mistakes

For those of you who already have a solid meditation practice – my hats off to you. Yea, yippee! Meditation is one of my favorite things to do. But if you do not have meditation in your life do not worry, it is never too late to begin.


Let’s take a step back here and look at the six most common meditation mistakes. If you have tried meditation and have become frustrated either with maintaining your practice or with a lack of results, do not feel alone. At times, even the most ardent practitioner can be derailed by these snafus.  

Many faults are rooted in typical, fundamental, misunderstandings about what the purpose of meditation is. These can derail any human being despite the best of intentions. The good news is, the meditations taught by Meditation from the Heart and the way they are presented side-step the common errors entirely, giving you a far more reliable and enduring experience.

Even better, the supportive nature of Meditation from the Heart provided in these classes offer in-depth insights on each of the mistakes below, and builds a foundation that will uplift your practice into a realm far beyond these diversions.

As we reveal the following meditation mistakes see if you recognize your own meditation ‘block’.

Meditation Mistake #1 – “I’m trying to quiet my mind.” Many people have been taught that meditation is about having a still mind. This may be the most common assumption about meditation. Untold numbers have conceded “failure” or “not being good at meditation” because they were not able to quiet their mind.

We may have moments of complete stillness within a meditation, but it is not the ultimate goal. Through stillness comes movement. From movement comes stillness.

Your mind is an integral part of your being. You need your mind to help you interpret what is going on in your heart. The trick with meditation is to learn how to simply notice when your mind is drawing you away from your center, acknowledge it, let it go and bring yourself back to your meditation. Sort of like letting the mental music drift in one ear and out the other. 

Mental Music
Meditation Mistake #2 – “I’m just trying to feel peaceful and open during my meditations.” Peace and relaxation are often promoted mistakenly as the primary purpose of meditation. Of course, meditation can produce positive, relaxed sensations, as well as many other related benefits. It won’t always, however, do that. Nothing ever always can do that. Yet many people end up believing they have ‘failed’ at meditation if they don’t feel calm, peaceful and good every time they sit to meditate.

Actually, the first stage of meditation is contemplation. So the first mistake mentioned above has to come into play. One cannot have contemplation without the mind engaged. And one cannot come to peace with the self without out spending time with the self. Sometimes that time will feel really pleasant and at times it will be difficult. The trick is to stick with it until you find the peace you are seeking in that part of you and know that then another aspect will come to the forefront.  Another layer revealed.

Fortunately along your meditation path there will always be another “ah ha!” moment or another feeling of pure joy. Through cultivation you will discover the strengths you naturally possess and a greater confidence to use them as you go about your daily life facing your challenges in a positive, productive way.

Stay tuned next week when we will discover more of the common meditation mistakes.

Sage Advice on Anger

Anger may upset and disappoint you, but do not live from there. Instead live as a ‘bigger’ person by functioning from your heart. It is o.k. to have feelings of anger, frustration, etc. but don’t function from that space. Only you can be the master of yourself.